Domestic and family violence is a very complex and personal issue, and we’re here to support you.
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Domestic and family violence is a pattern of behaviour that tries to control another person in a family relationship. The family relationship can be between people of the same or opposite sex, a parent and a child, siblings and other relatives.
Different types of violence
Physical violence is just one form of violence we usually associate with domestic and family violence. Here are some examples of other forms of violence to be aware of:
- physical assault
- threats to harm you or others, including pets
- sexual violence
- emotional abuse
- forcing isolation from friends and family
- psychological or mental abuse, like playing mind games
- financial abuse like restricting your access to money, or forcing you to take out debt you don't want
- not allowing you to practice your religion
- manipulative behaviour, like threatening suicide if you leave the relationship.
Tips to recognise the signs of domestic and family violence
Someone experiencing domestic and family violence may show one or more of these signs in social and work situations. This is not a definitive or exhaustive list of what an observer may notice. Examples may include:
- A change in voice, or one that is raspy or croaky, from strangulation.
- Wears long clothing (tops, skirts, pants) on a hot day.
- Weight loss.
- Folded arms or side-on stature.
- Bruises - although often calculated assaults occur and the victim survivor is able to cover injuries with clothing.
- Withdrawn personality and social disengagement.
- Often irate and emotional, or having an emotional response that’s out of the ordinary.
- A heightened sense of adrenaline, always busy or reluctant to engage in conversation.
- Constant down playing of the situation or makes excuses.
- Evidence of jealous behaviour, such as attending a branch or workplace to check on a partner, excessively calling the office phone or a mobile.
- A lot of unusual sick days, and then attending the doctor or hospital as violence escalates in severity.
- Signs of anxiety when finishing work or taking lunch breaks, which may be a sign of physical or technology stalking.
- A cycle of days off work sick, with visible bruising or injuries, and then receiving gifts or flowers.
- Experiencing threats to kill or use of a weapon.